Thursday, December 13, 2007

Some Thoughts on Christmas

This is a wonderful quote by C.S. Lewis. Published in the magazine "The 20th Century" in Dec 1957. (the punctuation etc. might be a bit off since I transcribed it from a recording.) Enjoy!

Three things go by the name of Christmas. One is the religious festival; this is important and obligatory for Christians, but as it can be of no interest to anyone else I shall naturally say no more about it here. The second – and it has complex historical connections with the first, but we needn’t go into them – is a popular holiday and occasion for merrymaking and hospitality. If it were my business to have a view on this I should say that I very much approve of merrymaking, but what I approve of much more is everybody minding his own business. I see no reason why I should volunteer views as to how other people ought to spend their own money and their own leisure among their own friends. It’s highly probable that they want my advice on such matters as little as I want their’s.

But the third thing called Christmas is unfortunately everybody’s business. I mean of course the commercial racket. The interchange of presents was a very small ingredient in the older English festivity. Mr. Pickwick took a cod with him to Dingleydell. The reformed Scrooge ordered a turkey for his clerk. Lovers sent love gifts. Toys and fruit were given to children. But the idea that not only all friends, but even all acquaintances should give one another presents, or at least send one another cards, is quite modern and has been forced upon us by the shopkeepers. Neither of these circumstances is in itself a reason for condemning it. I condemn it for the following reasons:

One, it gives on the whole much more pain than pleasure. You have only to stay over Christmas with a family who seriously tries to keep it, in it’s the third or commercial aspect, in order to see that the whole thing is a nightmare. Long before December 25th everyone is worn out: physically worn out by weeks of daily struggle in overcrowded shops, mentally worn out by the effort to remember all the right recipients and to think out suitable gives for them. They are in no trim for merrymaking; much less, if they should want to, to take part in a religious act. They look far more as if there had been a long illness in the family.

Two, most of it is involuntary. The modern rule is that anyone can force you to give him a present by sending you quite an unprovoked present of his own. It’s almost blackmail. Who as not heard the wail of despair and indeed of resentment, when at the last moment, just as everyone hoped that the nuisance was over for one more year the unwanted gift from Mrs. Busy – whom we hardly remember – flops unwelcomed through the letterbox and back to the dreadful shops one of us has to go.

Three, things are given as presents which no mortal ever bought for himself – gaudy and useless gadgets and novelties because no one was ever fool enough to make their like before. Have we really no better use for materials and human skill and time than to spend them on all this rubbish?

Four, the nuisance – for after all during the racket we still have all our ordinary and necessary shopping to do and the racket trebles the labor of it. We are told that the whole dreary business must go on because it is good for trade. It is in fact merely one annual symptom of that lunatic condition of our country, and indeed the whole world, in which everyone lives by persuading everyone else to buy things. I don’t know the way out, but can it really be my duty to buy and receive masses of stuff every winter just to help the shopkeepers? If worst comes to worst I’d sooner give them money for nothing and write it off as charity. For nothing? Why better for nothing than for a nuisance.

4 comments:

Melissa said...

it's great how this article is still exactly relevant 50 years later. it should be published again.

Meganace said...

Perhaps I have a different take on this than most...

Sincere gift-giving at Christmas (and all year long, actually) can be such a fulfilling and beautiful act. To truly give gifts well, there's more to it than just being forced into the "dreadful" shops by commercialism. It takes the realization that gaudy, unnecessary, "things" are not the point at all, but practical, meaningful, thoughtful gifts that show the other person that you've been thinking of them and care for them is all that is necessary...and that can really be as simple as a card or time spent together.

I also love being downtown or at the mall at Christmastime. Certainly there are unpleasant people sometimes, and it's crowded and parking can be frustrating, but there is joy in it too. My mom and I go to the mall on Christmas Eve every year to people-watch as a way to remember her dad who used to do the same with her. It's amazing to watch the guy who just walked out of the jewelry store with the perfect present for his wife or girlfriend, or the mom and dad walking out of the pet store with a puppy, or the children tugging excitedly at their parent's legs, all smiling from ear to ear. It's not about commercialism, not always at least.

Maybe it's just me (and I'm fully willing to admit that it may be), but I find Christmas, shopping for true "gifts," and finding ways to spread Christmas cheer, charity, and peace refreshing and energizing. Family can be difficult, and this year will certainly be hard for my mom and me after losing my grandma, but we can still spread the real meaning of Christmas through our actions, even gift-giving, this time of year.

Just my thoughts...
Merry Christmas!!!

Melissa said...

this is true, if your primary love language is gift giving or gift receiving. mine definitely isn't, and i have very few friends for which that is the case. and i could go through christmas just fine without setting foot in a store and only buying presents for my immediate family because it's our tradition. and we get each other things that we actually want.

anyway. i guess CS lewis's love language wasn't gifts. and it seems like the most important thing is knowing our family friends and caring for them in the ways they need to be cared for, which doesn't necessarily have anything to do with giving an actual gift.

Jules said...

I think Lewis point has nothing to do with close friends. Buying gifts for close friends was part of the second thing referred to as Christmas and Lewis said he would just mind his own business on that one.

He seems to be talking more about the busyness and the apparent need to get something for every single person we know because it is expected of us.

Gift giving is one of my top (if not the primary)love languages - but feeling obligated to get a gift for everyone is draining even for me. Giving love out of obligation - no matter the form - is neither giving or love.